Why does a guy call a girl several days in advance, ask her on a date, plan something really quite thoughtful and fabulous, generally show the girl the time of her life, and never call her again? Isn't that a waste of both of your time? And why is he leading the girl on like that?
This exact scenario happens to me fairly frequently, but during the last month, has happened 3 times. 3 dates in amonth are fabulous, both have a great time, and he never calls again. If you're not interested, don't call me in the first place. And for heaven sakes, if you think you are and are taking me on the date to find out, don't sent out the wrong signals!
In order to further help my male comrades with these appropriate signals, let me help you understand what a girl does when she's expecting a call back:
* She makes eye contact. Frequently.
* She touches you just because she can.
* She laughs at you because suddenly, you're "funny".
* She tells you she had a really great time and (here's the key) that you should "totally do it again sometime".
* She hugs you until you start to release her -- she's not going to be the first to release if she's enjoying you.
In a related category, here's how to tell if she's not so interested in you:
* She looks around the room (or wherever) for something more interesting than you and your conversation.
* She smiles at you but doesn't laugh.
* She talks about other guys or about other girls she should set you up with.
* Here's the tricky part -- she says she's had a good time, but avoids eye contact while telling you that.
* She's the first to release the doorstep hug.
* At any point during the date, she answers her cell phone. Exemption -- if she' answering a family call for a reason (which she'll tell you if there is one).
Hope this helps. And guys, if you'd like to explain to me the signals I should look for when I'm on a first date so I don't get my hopes up if they shouldn't be or so that I do if they should be, let me know, because let's be honest -- I have no idea what I'm doing.
1 comment:
I hadn't thought about the hugging one. That's a good one. I picked up on all those signlas though minus the hug one on my first date with the ex but didn't pick up on the signal "Negativity leads to complications". Don't send that one out. :) I'd say a lot of those are good for the guy side too except the touching one, since most guys know it's not good to touch until things get more serious.
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